What we're not told about healing
We live in a time where there is so much information about how to heal, how to change your life, how to think, how to fix yourself. Especially online. Everyone seems to have a method, a rule, or a shortcut that “works.” And when you’re in a place where you really want your life to change, especially when your health, safety, or wellbeing are involved, it’s completely natural to cling to anything that offers hope.
Of course we’re longing for a method that works quickly. When you’re in pain, you want relief now, not later. We don’t want to have to try lots of different therapies, remedies, or diets. We don’t want to hear that it might be complicated, slow, or uncertain. So we latch onto the little nuggets that say, “this is the solution, if you do this, you’ll get better - guaranteed”. And when we come across a grain of hope, we filter out any information that questions that hope. We’re more likely to believe the parts that promise relief and less likely to take in the parts that talk about time, setbacks, emotion, or messiness.
Sometimes the full picture isn’t presented honestly. And sometimes we don’t actually want the full picture because we’re tired, scared, or desperate for an improvement.
What I struggle with is the way some narratives quietly place blame back onto the individual when things don’t work. As if not healing, not improving, or not changing fast enough means you did something wrong. You didn’t believe enough. You didn’t try hard enough. You weren’t positive enough.
I don’t believe that’s fair. And I don’t believe it reflects reality. Bad things happen to good people. Healing isn’t linear, and you feel that most clearly in everyday life. Progress doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some people improve quickly, some slowly, some in unexpected ways, and some not at all, and none of that is reason for blame.
My intention here is simply to share my own experience as honestly as I can, including the time it took, the confusion, the emotional ups and downs, the many false starts, and the slow progress that eventually got me to where I am today.
Other people will have completely different journeys. That’s okay. Those journeys are just as valid as mine. If anything, my goal is to cut through the noise and present a more truthful, human picture of what change and healing can actually look like. Not glorified. Not rushed. Not blame-based. Just real.
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About the Author
Nurture & Thrive is written from lived experience of managing multiple food sensitivities over more than 15 years. The content reflects personal experience of navigating symptoms, diagnosis, and recovery, and is focused on the practical and emotional realities of living with it day to day.